All My Life My Father Blamed Me for My Mother’s Passing, Then He Gets Taught a Lesson – Story of the Day

I grew up believing that my father blamed me for my mother’s death but the truth was heartbreaking.

I never knew my mother, and my father never spoke about her. All I knew was that she had been very beautiful, because of the picture that hung on my father’s study wall, and that she had died very young.

My father was a sad man, a quiet and distant man. I wanted him to notice me, and to love me, but he never did. He rarely spoke to me beyond the perfunctory hello and goodbye, good morning and goodnight. I would have given anything for him to sweep me into his arms and tell me he loved me.

The shadow of my mother's death followed me my whole life | Source: Shutterstock.com

The shadow of my mother’s death followed me my whole life | Source: Shutterstock.com

This strange and strained relationship with my father continued until I was 18, and by then I was a sad and lonely young woman who believed my father hated me. If my father didn’t love me, who would?

But the answer to all my questions was about to be delivered in the most painful and cruel way. My father was hosting a party for his business associates, and among them was a woman whom I knew slightly.

If you don’t leave the past behind you, you deny yourself a future.

I had the feeling that she and my father had a past together — or at least that she wished they did. She greeted me and we started chatting — inconsequential talk about nothing special — and my father walked by.

I gave him my best smile, but he immediately glanced away. The woman saw it all. “Do you know why?” she asked.

I grew up feeling that my father hated me | Source: Unsplash

I grew up feeling that my father hated me | Source: Unsplash

“Why what?” I asked, confused.

“Why he hates you,” she said.

“My father doesn’t hate me!” I exclaimed. “He’s just not a very demonstrative man.”

“So you don’t know…” she smiled. It was the ugliest smile I’d ever seen. I was about to walk away when she said, “He believes you killed your mother, Karen.”

One day at a party someone told me the truth | Source: Unsplash

One day at a party someone told me the truth | Source: Unsplash

I stopped in my tracks. “What?” I gasped.

“Your mother died giving birth to you, surely you know that?” she said.

“No…” I answered. “No, I didn’t know.” I turned my back on her and went looking for my grandmother, my father’s mother, the woman who’d raised me and never told me about my mother’s death.

“How did my mother die?” I asked her angrily. “Was it in childbirth?”

My mother had died in childbirth | Source: Pexels

My mother had died in childbirth | Source: Pexels

My grandmother shook her head. “Please Karen, your father asked me never to speak of this with you.”

“I have the right to know about my own mother!” I cried. “I have the right to know why my father hates me!”

Then a quiet angry voice behind me said, “I don’t hate you, Karen, but your mother’s death is none of your business:”

I turned to face my father. “My mother’s death is none of my business? You’re wrong! I killed her, didn’t I? That’s what you think each time you look at me!”

My father blamed me for her death | Source: Unsplash

My father blamed me for her death | Source: Unsplash

The expression in his eyes sent me running out of the door. I got into my car and drove aimlessly, tears running down my face. In my distress, I didn’t see the oncoming car changing lanes until it was too late.

I woke up in the hospital linked to a beeping machine, with a dull promise of pain twinging through my whole body. Sitting by my side and holding my hand was my father.

“Karen,” he said softly, “Thank God you’re alright!”

“Daddy…” I whispered, “you’re here!”

Tears came into his eyes. “Of course I’m here. I don’t hate you, Karen. I love you. And I don’t blame you for your mother’s death, I blame myself. When your mom and I married we were very poor.

“All we had were dreams and our love for each other. Then she fell pregnant and I took on a second job. I knew we’d need the money when you came along. I was working 16-hour days and she spent a lot of time alone.

“So one day when I came home she wasn’t there. A neighbor had taken her to the hospital. When I got there it was all over. Your mother had died, and I hadn’t been there for her.

The accident nearly cost me my life | Source: Pexels

The accident nearly cost me my life | Source: Pexels

“I didn’t blame you, Karen, I blamed myself. I was determined I wasn’t going to fail you the way I’d failed her, so I threw myself into my work, and I became a rich man.

“Daddy, how could you blame yourself?” I asked. “There was nothing you could have done!”

“I could have been there, holding her hand the way I’m holding yours now,” he said.

“But daddy…” I hesitated, “you were always so angry with me, so cold. You ran away from me.”

My father and I were reconciled | Source: Unsplash

My father and I were reconciled | Source: Unsplash

“Karen, you look just like your mother, and each time I looked at you, my heart was torn apart by grief and guilt. It took nearly losing you to make me realize what I’d done. I love you.”

For the first time in my life, my father put his arms around me and showed me that he loved me. It was a new beginning for both of us, and I like to believe my mother was smiling down from heaven.

What can we learn from this story?

  • If you don’t leave the past behind you, you deny yourself a future. Karen’s father was so lost in his pain that he nearly lost the opportunity to have a wonderful relationship with his daughter.
  • The truth can heal old wounds and open the way to a new beginning. It was only after Karen and her father spoke about their estrangement that they could move past their misunderstandings.

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Surprise, the rumors regarding Kate Middleton are confirmed to be accurate by Prince Harry’s warning.

It is hardly surprising that Kate Middleton and King Charles are the center of attention for the British public. Well wishes are coming in from all around the world while Kate recovers from the “planned” abdominal surgery and the King is having cancer treatment in London. The public was concerned about how the royal family would be impacted by these health concerns, but the Palace reassured people that Kate was “doing-well” even though they hadn’t disclosed any information about her lengthy hospital stay or surgery.

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle were among those who extended their best wishes and hoped the Princess and the King a swift recovery.

Although their relationship with the other royals appears to be at an all-time low, their outreach to Kate and Charles may be the first step in resolving their differences.

The members of the Firm have been the target of accusations from the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, who have also criticized the Palace for failing to intervene on Meghan’s behalf when she was in need of support and contemplating suicide. During the controversial Oprah interview, Harry and Meghan launched their first accusations against the royal family, accusing a senior royal of doubting the sking color of Archie, who was still pregnant at the time.

The Sussexes gave numerous interviews after moving to the United States, and Harry wrote his book Spare, in which he disclosed secrets and discussed what went on behind closed doors when he was still a working royal.

There has also been turmoil in Meghan and Kate’s relationship.

Both Kate and Meghan were advised not to go to Balmoral when Queen Elizabeth’s health began to deteriorate, but the actual reason was that they didn’t want Meghan there and Kate was just told to stay behind to make things appear more equitable.

“Kate stayed away on purpose, but she really wanted to be there with the Queen in her final moments,” Jobson stated. Kate is completely consumed by that, and her dislike of Meghan has grown.

As per Jobson, “Catherine later admitted to a senior royal that, such was the ill feeling between the two couples, the joint walkabout was one of the hardest things she’d ever had to do.” Kate and William, along with Harry and Meghan, walked beside each other throughout the burial.

The media claims that Harry and Meghan contacted Kate as soon as they heard about her operation from the news.

A source informed the Mirror, “Prince Harry and Meghan have extended support to the King and the Princess of Wales with regards to their health.” “The Duke and Duchess conveyed their concern and well wishes to both parties through various means.”

The source stated, “Meghan has contacted Kate and Charles.” Thus, efforts are being undertaken to make amends.

The insider added that Meghan has been a huge supporter of Harry’s efforts to mend his family’s wrongs. Additionally, Harry “wishes the very best for the royals—Kate included.”

According to GB News, royal historian Marlene Koenig gave Harry and Meghan high marks for their handling of the matter.

She stated, “It was reported that they sent private messages, which would be the proper course of action.”

She thinks it’s wise for Harry and Meghan to keep their comments about Kate private.

But even though Kate will resume her royal duties around Easter, PR guru Ryan McCormick warns Harry and Meghan might make a grave error if they start talking about the princess in public. According to the Mirror, McCormick advises the Sussexes not talk about Kate Middleton until she has resumed her royal duties.

DUBBO, AUSTRALIA – October 17: On October 17, 2018, in Dubbo, Australia, Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, pay a visit to the Woodleys, a local farming family. While on their official 16-day autumn trip, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex are stopping in Australian, Fijian, Tonga, and New Zealand cities. (Image courtesy of Chris Jackson via Pool/Getty Images)He stated that it would be best for Harry and Meghan to keep their comments about Kate private because any information released in public could be misunderstood and spark further rumors.“Everything they said would be scrutinized excessively, and if they wished Kate a quick recovery, rumors about what’s going on behind the scenes would spread widely,”“The Duchess & Duke can gradually begin to possibly regain trust from the royal family by doing exactly as they are instructed to do,” the PR specialist went on.Please use Facebook to SHARE this post with your loved ones.

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