According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Four boys singing in church is the funniest thing I’ve seen. Keep your eyes on the boy in the vest
This has to rank among the funniest humorous videos I’ve ever seen, I must say. and I know; I’ve been here. Kudos to the talented boys that put this together.
This has to rank among the funniest humorous videos I’ve ever seen, I must say. and I know; I’ve been here. Kudos to the talented boys that put this together.
A tastefully decorated stage provides the ideal backdrop for the Christmas scene. Everyone in attendance was expecting what they perceived to be an enjoyable, albeit traditional, church service on Christmas.
The four boys arrive on stage looking dapper in black pants, white shirts, and ties. And then it happens! Comedies come next! Keep a watch on the guy in the vest; you can’t help but be entertained by his antics!
This traditional gospel song becomes funnier by the minute. The boys are obviously having a great time. The throng is giggling hysterically. These four boys’ joyful worship and entertainment drove the congregation to tears of laughter!
Many people believe that humorous clean comedy is no longer relevant. These kids, though, aren’t. They are outstanding. They really did make my day. Watch this amusing Christmas performance to get in on the fun. Absolutely amazing! I had a hard time stopping my laughter!
To tell the truth, my friend, nothing compares to clean, funny comedy. the kind that, rather than relying on cheap techniques or crude jokes, depicts the unadulterated joy and spontaneity of life. It’s like taking a trip back in time to happier, carefree times when laughing was abundant and fun was unbridled when these boys perform. These boys really did it well.
Now, when I say the performance was hilarious, I truly do mean it. The primary appeal is the boy in the vest; he seems to have no bounds between his sense of humor and his appearance. The way he blends serious reverence with playful antics is nothing short of wonderful.
Imagine a stage with a serene Christmas scene background, and then all of a sudden… A pretty funny chain of events that makes people clench their sides. When the lads’ performance takes an unexpected turn, everyone gasps almost simultaneously.
The audience’s and the choir’s reactions, combined with the kids’ hilarious antics, make this an especially unforgettable occasion. The space has a genuine warmth and joy that makes a personal connection with guests. Isn’t it amazing how comedy can bring people together in this way?
Let’s talk about the video itself as well: fantastic! It’s this kind of content that becomes increasingly popular for all the right reasons. It’s energetic, upbeat, and perfect for the holidays. You smile when you see these lads infuse brightness and joy into a traditional setting.
It’s undeniable that finding this kind of entertainment these days is unusual. It’s a sweet reminder that sometimes the simplest things may bring about the deepest enjoyment. So trust me when I say that if you’re having a rough day or just need a good laugh, this video is just what you need.
In a world when comedy is often eclipsed by pessimism and doom, these four boys are a beacon of hope. They remind us of the restorative, uplifting, and unifying power of laughing. When we don’t take ourselves too seriously, do you think life can’t be fun? Just watch out for that boy with the vest.
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