Mariska Hargitay’s journey to motherhood is truly inspiring. Known for her iconic role on “Law & Order: SVU,” her real-life story revolves around love, resilience, and the joy of raising three children. The actress’s path to building a family is filled with unexpected blessings and deep gratitude.
Mariska Hargitay’s journey into motherhood began in her early 40s when she gave birth to her first child. Despite the challenges of being a first-time mother later in life, she wholeheartedly and joyfully embraced motherhood.
Her family grew when she and her husband, actor Peter Hermann, welcomed two more children within a year. Each child brought unique blessings into their lives, and Mariska cherishes the unexpected path that led her to become a mother of three.
Long before becoming a mother, Mariska always envisioned having her own family. From a young age, she knew motherhood was part of her life plans, a desire deeply rooted in her own upbringing.
A Childhood of Glitz and Heartbreak: The Early Life of Mariska Hargitay
Mariska is an actress, who added producing and directing to her list of talents. She was born to the glamorous actress Jayne Mansfield and the former Mr. Universe Mickey Hargitay on January 23, 1964.
Being born into Hollywood royalty, Mariska’s early life was surrounded by fame and glitz. This set a unique backdrop for her childhood. However, her early years were also marked by tragedy.
When Mariska was just three years old, her mother died in a car accident on June 29, 1967. This loss left a lasting scar on the actress, both physically and emotionally.
The actress expressed, “I clearly was in that frozen place for a lot of my childhood—of trying to survive, actually trying to survive. My life has been a process of unpeeling the layers and trust and trusting again.”
Despite this tragic beginning, Mariska’s parents’ legacy played a significant role in shaping her character. Her father, Mickey, raised her with discipline and love, teaching her the importance of hard work and resilience.
He ensured she had a normal upbringing. Mariska joined the swim team, ran cross-country, played volleyball, and by 1982, she was crowned Miss Beverly Hills. Despite her accomplishments, she was always aware of the darker side of life.
The actress later explained that she learned about crisis early and realized that life offers no guarantees, but we must keep moving forward and transform our experiences.
She considers this ability to be her superpower and sees it as a gift from experiencing trauma early in life. Despite these challenges, Mariska went on to live a full and fulfilling life.
Embracing Motherhood: Mariska’s Journey from Daughter to Mom
For Mariska, 2004 marked the beginning of a new phase in her life. That year, she married Peter, and on June 28, 2006, the actress welcomed her first child, August Miklos Friedrich Hermann, at 42.
Starting this journey into motherhood was easy for Mariska as she knew from a young age that she was meant for it. Despite losing her mother, she never lacked a maternal figure in her life. The actress was raised by her father’s third wife, Ellen Siano Hargitay, who never made her feel like an outsider.
Mariska reminisced, “I called her Mom. She really claimed us. She never had biological kids of her own, and to this day we are her kids. So we were blessed that she really embraced us and loved us so quickly. And I was very fortunate to have a maternal figure in my life after such a horrific accident.”
Additionally, while Ellen’s motherly act prepared Mariska for being a mom, it also stirred in her the desire to have children by other means. The actress had grown up realizing that being a mother did not have to be biological.
A Dream Fulfilled: The Adoption of Amaya Josephine
After a few years of becoming parents, Mariska and Peter, who came from big families, decided it was time to expand theirs. They were also not the only ones clamoring for more kids around the house. Their son August also wanted siblings.
However, the actress was over 40, and at her age at the time, pregnancies were never easy. Knowing she and her husband had so much love to give, Mariska was hopeful. She said, “I was really letting the chips fall as they might, because I do think so much is up to God.”
Mariska didn’t know how she was going to have more children, but she knew it was something that would happen. The actress remarked, “I always said, ‘I don’t know how this is going to end up. I don’t know if I’m going to get pregnant and have twins.’”
Despite having no clue, there was something she was sure of, and that was adoption. She recalled not knowing if someone would leave a baby on her doorstep. Nevertheless, she said, “But I really did think that down the line, Peter and I would adopt a child. That was always part of the plan.”
In early April 2011, Mariska and Peter’s plan came to fruition as they welcomed their second child, Amaya Josephine Hermann. Their daughter had been born in the United States about a week before her adoption.
As soon as the couple decided to adopt, they did not limit themselves as they considered international and domestic adoption. Mariska revealed they had talked about the idea of mixed-race adoptions, and were excited to become a multi-racial family.
The actress’s excitement began even before Amaya joined the family. Mariska had revealed, “I’m deliriously happy. From the minute she was born, she was just surprisingly alert and so full of love.”
The second time Mother was not alone in her excitement. August, who was less than five at the time, was also happy to have a baby sister. His Mom disclosed, “He is over the moon. He calls her his baby because he says the whole thing was his idea. He always talks about how he’s going to protect her. He’s going to be a great big brother.”
A Brother’s Dream: The Joyous Arrival of Andrew Nicolas
August, who prided himself as a big brother, was very hands-on in his sister’s life. He reportedly even participated in picking out her name. However, seeing as he thought it was his idea for her to join the family, he wanted yet another sibling.
Six months after Amaya came home as a newborn, August’s wish was fulfilled as he welcomed his baby brother, Andrew Nicolas Hermann, in October 2011. This time, Andrew was not a newborn, as he had been born in the summer of that year.
Mariska noted, “August thinks this was all his idea! He said, ‘I want a baby sister,’ and Amaya came. Then he said, ‘I want a baby brother,’ and Andrew came. August is feeling pretty good and pretty powerful!”
While August Miklos Friedrich Hermann felt powerful, Mariska was feeling a range of positive emotions. She said, “We adopted Amaya, and Andrew, I always describe it as this angel that fell out of the sky, because he was a little unexpected. [sic]”
Andrew Nicolas, Peter Hermann, and Mariska Hargitay at the ceremony honoring Mariska Hargitay with a Star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame on November 8, 2013, in Hollywood. | Source: Getty Images
The adoption of Andrew was not something Peter and Mariska had planned for at the time it happened. The couple had initially planned to adopt another baby a year or more after Amaya joined their household.
However, things happened differently. The actress revealed that their lawyer suddenly called them to inform them about Andrew. Their lawyer noted that it was an amazing opportunity, and the couple, in that moment, had never been more sure about having him in their lives.
The swiftness and timing of Andrew joining their family makes the actress believe her son “fell out of the sky.” Nevertheless, Mariska knows that it’s not an easy journey.
She once remarked, “I’m not gonna lie, there were wrenching moments. I say to everybody, ‘Adoption is not for the faint of heart.’” But, on some days, the actress feels like she’s living in a dream world. She said, “I just sit and pinch myself.”
Mariska Hargitay with Amaya, Andrew, and August at The Children’s Museum Of The East End 5th Annual Family Fair on July 20, 2013, in Bridgehampton, New York. | Source: Getty Images
Family and Fulfillment: Mariska Hargitay on Life as a Mother of Three
At 47, Mariska, who initially didn’t think it was possible to love more than one kid, had become a mom of three. She said, “You know you have one kid, and then you think, oh my gosh, I’ll never love another kid, and then the second one comes, and you can’t believe that you love them, and then the third one fell out of sky.”
Becoming a mother did not only teach Mariska about her capacity to love, it did more. She noted, “Becoming a parent erased many of my negative childhood feelings and filled them in with something new,” some of which include trying out new cultures when it comes to their cuisines.
The actress is not the only one to have spoken to the media about their family of five. Peter Hermann’s love for his family is always evident even though gets private about their kids. However, he expressed his thoughts on the unconventional manner in which their family grew.
The actor divulged, “It’s funny, I always get so private about our kids, but I think that the easiest way or the easiest answer is we just wanted a bigger family and we feel incredibly blessed.”
In 2018, Mariska also opened up about her life with the kids as she graced the cover of People’s magazine. She said, “The thing that’s made me a better parent is my kids. Because they taught me to really listen. My husband is my North Star, and my kids are my teachers.”
Not only did they make her a better parent, they also gave her something perfect in life. The actress revealed, “Our family is so perfect, or at least perfect for me. Together we’re just this whole, happy, joyful, chaotic, crazy unit. I’ve never known anything that was more right.”
Despite having a crazy and chaotic unit, Mariska and Peter work together to get the results they desire. Even though they have different parenting styles, the couple complement each other, with the actress revealing that her husband knows everything she doesn’t know.
Shortly before turning 60 in 2024, Mariska reflected on her life’s journey, career, motherhood, and more. The actress had countless reasons to be thankful.
Peter Hermann and Mariska Hargitay with their children, August, Andrew, and Amaya at the 2023 Stuttering Association For The Young (SAY) Benefit Gala on May 22, 2023, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
One of the things Mariska was thankful for was the timing when she started her family. She said, “I’m so grateful that I’m an older mom. Grateful that I became successful older. I don’t know if I could have handled it when I was younger.”
The actress then compared what she was like in her younger days. She remembered that in her younger years, she struggled to be present, but as she got older, she learned to accept and appreciate life more deeply.
She noted, “And now I’m going to savor this moment. I want to share my lessons and where there is pain that I can fix that really inspires me to lighten the load.”
Mariska’s journey shows her strength and love. Starting her family in her early 40s, she faced the challenges and joys of raising three children with Peter. Their story is full of unexpected blessings and deep gratitude. As she cherishes her family, Mariska inspires us to embrace life’s surprises and the power of love at any age.
I Was About to Marry the Love of My Life – But When I Lifted the Bride’s Veil, I Called Off the Wedding
Matt stood at the altar, ready to begin the rest of his life with the woman he loved. The church was full and the priest nodded for him to lift the veil to kiss the bride. But the moment Matt lifted the delicate lace, he FROZE IN DISBELIEF and CALLED OFF THE WEDDING.
I met Sophia in the kind of way that feels too good to be real. A library. I know, it sounds like a Hallmark movie setup, right? I was looking for a book on philosophy I’d been dying to read, and just as I spotted it, another hand reached out at the same time. Hers.
She laughed before I could say a word. “Go ahead. You look like you actually plan on reading it.”
“How can you tell?” I asked, unable to hide my smile.
A man smiling in a library | Source: Midjourney
“The way your eyes lit up when you saw it,” she replied, tucking a strand of hair behind her ear. “Most people just pretend to like philosophy to sound smart.”
That was all it took. A spark. We started talking — about books, life, and the kind of things you talk about when you’re not trying too hard. I didn’t even notice when the library closed. All I knew was I didn’t want the conversation to end.
“I can’t believe we’ve been talking for three hours,” she said, checking her watch. “Time flies when you’re debating philosophy with a stranger.”
“Maybe we shouldn’t be strangers anymore,” I suggested. “I’m Matt.”
“Sophia!” she replied, her smile making my heart skip a beat. “And I’d love to continue this discussion over coffee sometime.”
A delighted woman in a library | Source: Midjourney
From there, things moved fast, but they always felt right. Sophia was the kind of person who made the world feel lighter. She was smart, kind, and beautiful in this effortless way, like she wasn’t even trying to be. Within a year, I was down on one knee, holding out the ring I knew would look perfect on her hand.
“Sophia,” I said, my voice trembling, “you make every day feel like that first moment in the library. Will you marry me?”
Tears welled up in her eyes. “Yes, Matt! A thousand times yes!”
And that’s how our journey began. But there was one complication: her sister, Emily.
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Emily was… different. Looking at her was like seeing Sophia’s reflection in a slightly warped mirror. They shared the same delicate features, the same honey-blonde hair, and the same bright eyes. Most people assumed they were twins, and the sisters would often joke about it.
But while they may have looked alike on the outside, Emily had this intense energy about her, like she was always a second away from doing something unpredictable.
“You know,” people would often say, “if I didn’t know better, I’d swear you two were identical twins.”
Sophia would laugh it off, but Emily would always get this strange look in her eyes, like she was filing away that information for later. She had always been… obsessed with me. At first, I thought it was harmless — a little extra attention here and there, playful teasing when Sophia wasn’t around.
But over time, it became unsettling.
A woman flirtatiously smiling at someone | Source: Midjourney
When Sophia wasn’t looking, Emily would linger too long, touch my arm unnecessarily, or make comments that felt more personal than a sister-in-law-to-be should.
“You know, Matt,” Emily would say, her fingers lingering on my shoulder, “Sophia’s so lucky to have found you. I’ve always wanted someone just like you. We even look so much alike… doesn’t that feel like fate?”
“Emily, please,” I’d say, stepping away uncomfortably. “I love your sister.”
“Love is such a complicated thing, isn’t it?” she’d reply with that unsettling smile. “Sometimes we think we know what we want, but we’re wrong. And sometimes what we want is right in front of us, wearing a different face.”
It was unnerving, but I convinced myself it wasn’t worth making a big deal over.
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When I brought it up to Sophia, she just brushed it off. “That’s just Emily being Emily,” she’d say with a laugh, as if her sister’s behavior was some running joke I wasn’t in on.
“I don’t know, Sophia,” I’d press. “Something feels off about the way she acts around me.”
“Matt, honey, she’s had a rough time lately. She’s just trying to find her place in the world. Please, for me, try to understand?”
I let it go, not wanting to create unnecessary drama. After all, we were planning a wedding, and I wanted everything to be perfect.
But looking back, I should’ve trusted my gut.
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The wedding day arrived like a dream. The church was packed, every pew filled with family and friends. The hum of anticipation filled the air, and I stood at the altar, palms sweating, my heart pounding in my chest.
Dave, my best man, nudged me with a grin. “You good, man? You look like you might pass out.”
I chuckled nervously. “Yeah, I’m good. Just… ready to see her, you know?”
“I’ve never seen you this nervous,” Dave whispered. “Not even when you were practicing your proposal speech for three weeks straight.”
“This is different,” I replied, adjusting my tie for the hundredth time. “This is forever.”
“And it’s perfect,” Dave assured me. “You and Sophia? You’re meant to be.”
And then, the organ began to play.
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The heavy oak doors at the back of the church creaked open, and there she was. My bride. Sophia. She looked radiant in her white gown, her face hidden beneath a delicate lace veil. For a moment, it felt like the air had been knocked out of my lungs.
Step by step, she made her way down the aisle, her father guiding her arm. I couldn’t take my eyes off her, but something felt… strange. Her movements were stiff and her posture rigid. She wasn’t looking at me, not the way she always did.
I told myself it was nerves. We were both nervous — it was a big day, after all.
The ceremony began, the priest’s voice a blur as he led us through the vows. When the moment came to lift her veil, my hands trembled. This was it. The moment I’d been waiting for. But when I lifted the veil, my heart STOPPED.
It wasn’t Sophia. It was… EMILY.
A cheerful woman in a bridal attire | Source: Midjourney
“EMILY? What are you doing here?” I gasped.
How had I not realized sooner? The similar height, the same build, the matching honey-blonde hair — it had made her cruel deception possible.
The gasp that erupted from the crowd sounded distant, like it was coming from underwater. My chest tightened, and I took a step back, staring at her in disbelief.
“What the hell is this?” I gasped. “Where is Sophia?”
Emily smiled this small, smug smile that made my stomach turn. “Sophia’s not coming,” she said softly, like she was breaking the news gently.
A startled groom | Source: Midjourney
“What are you talking about? Where is she?”
Emily took a step closer, her eyes locked on mine. “She doesn’t love you, Matt. She was never going to show up today. But I’m here. I’ve always been here.”
“This isn’t happening,” I muttered, running my hands through my hair. “This can’t be happening.”
“But it is happening!” Emily whispered, reaching for my hand. “This is fate, Matt. You and me. It’s always been you and me.”
I stared at her, trying to make sense of the words coming out of her mouth. “You’re lying.”
“I’m not. She doesn’t want this. She doesn’t want you. But I do. I’ve loved you since the day I met you. And I know you love me too, even if you won’t admit it.”
A furious bride | Source: Midjourney
“Stop it!” I shouted, my voice echoing through the church. “Where is my fiancée? What have you done with Sophia?”
“She’s exactly where she’s meant to be! She doesn’t want to see you, let alone marry you!”
Her words hit me like a punch to the gut. My hands clenched at my sides, my head spinning. I tried calling Sophia but her number was disconnected.
“You’re insane. This wedding is over!” I hissed at Emily.
“Matt, please,” she begged, grabbing my arm. “Everything I did, I did for us. Can’t you see that?”
I yanked my arm away. “There is no us, Emily. There never was, and there never will be.”
I turned to the crowd, my voice louder now. “Thank you all for coming. But there will be no wedding today.”
A disheartened groom | Source: Midjourney
“You’ll regret this!” Emily screamed as I walked away. “She’ll never love you like I do!”
And with that, I walked out, leaving the chaos behind me.
I couldn’t sleep that night. The moment kept looping in my head, over and over, refusing to let me rest. How could Emily possibly think this would work? And where the hell was Sophia? I tried calling her again, but every time, it went straight to voicemail.
The next morning, my phone rang. I almost didn’t answer — it could’ve been anyone calling to ask what happened. But something told me to pick up.
“Matt?”
My heart stopped. “Sophia?”
A shocked man talking on the phone | Source: Midjourney
Her voice was shaky and desperate. “I’m so sorry. I’m calling from my dad’s phone. I didn’t mean for any of this to happen.”
“Where were you?” I demanded, my anger and relief mixing into something I couldn’t describe.
She broke down, sobbing. “Emily locked me in the attic.”
“What?” I froze, gripping the phone tighter. “What are you talking about?”
“She told me she had a surprise for me,” Sophia said through her tears. “She said she wanted to give me something before we left for the wedding. When I went into the attic, she shoved me in and locked the door after grabbing my phone. I screamed, Matt. I screamed so much, but no one could hear me.”
A helpless bride trapped in an attic | Source: Midjourney
“Oh God, Sophia,” I choked out, tears streaming down my face. “I should have known something was wrong. I should have protected you.”
“I was so scared,” she whispered. “Not just for me, but for you. I knew what she was capable of, but I never thought… I never imagined she’d go this far.”
I sat down, my head in my hands. “She locked you in the attic to… to take your place?”
Sophia’s silence said everything.
“I kept banging on the door,” she finally continued, her voice breaking. “I kept calling for help until my voice gave out. And the whole time, I could hear the wedding music playing below. I could hear everything, Matt. Everything. I fainted from exhaustion. My dad found me hours later and told me the wedding was off.”
“I’m coming over,” I said, grabbing my keys. “Right now.”
An anxious woman talking on the phone | Source: Midjourney
“Matt,” she called out before I could hang up. “I love you. I need you to know that.”
“I love you too. More than anything.”
When I got to her house, Sophia ran into my arms, her face pale and tear-streaked. I held her tightly, my emotions threatening to spill over.
“I’m so sorry,” she whispered.
“Look at me,” I said, gently lifting her chin. “None of this is your fault. Emily… she needs help.”
“I should have seen it coming,” Sophia said, trembling. “All those times, the way she’d look at you, the things she’d say when we weren’t around. I thought if I just loved her enough, supported her enough…”
“This isn’t your fault,” I said. “Emily’s sick. She needs help, but that doesn’t mean we let this slide.”
A disheartened man lost in deep thought | Source: Midjourney
“What are we going to do?” Sophia asked, her eyes meeting mine.
“We’re going to do what’s right,” I replied, taking her hand. “For everyone’s sake.”
We pressed charges against Emily. It wasn’t an easy decision, but it was the right one. Her actions weren’t just a harmless prank — they were dangerous and calculated. She needed to face the consequences.
“I never wanted it to come to this,” Sophia sobbed as we left the police station. “She’s my sister, Matt. My little sister.”
“I know, love,” I said, holding her close. “But sometimes loving someone means making the hard choices. She needs help, and this is the only way to make sure she gets it.”
A heartbroken woman | Source: Midjourney
Emily’s betrayal left scars, but it didn’t destroy us. Sophia and I took time to heal, to rebuild the trust and love that had been tested so deeply. And when we were ready, we planned a new wedding — smaller, quieter, but filled with the people who truly supported us.
This time, when Sophia walked down the aisle, there wasn’t a single doubt in my mind. When I lifted her veil and saw her radiant smile, I knew we had weathered the storm together, and we were stronger for it.
“I do,” she said, her voice strong and clear, without any trace of fear or doubt.
“I do,” I replied, meaning it more than ever before.
And as we sealed our vows with a kiss, I realized that true love isn’t just about the perfect moments… it’s about surviving the imperfect ones together.
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