At 21, Carla faced yet another challenge when her father asked her to leave their home to make space for his new baby. Though devastated, her loving grandparents helped her rebuild her life while uncovering family secrets that forced her to choose between independence and family ties.
Carla’s life changed drastically when her mother passed away when she was just 10. Her father remarried when she was 15 to Linda, who brought her daughter Megan into their lives. Later, they had two more children together, Jimmy and a baby girl.
When her dad first announced his marriage plans, he awkwardly told her that Linda would be good for their family. He suggested that having a new stepsister might give Carla some companionship. Initially, Linda seemed kind but kept her distance. However, over time, Carla and Megan formed a strong sisterly bond, supporting each other through tough times.
At 16, Carla got a job at a local grocery store to gain financial independence. She was eager to pay for her own clothes and school supplies. But when she turned 18, her dad surprised her with a request for $500 in rent. Although she protested, he insisted it was time for her to take on responsibilities, and she eventually agreed.
Five months ago, everything changed again. Carla’s dad and Linda told her she had to leave her room for the new baby. In shock, Carla pointed out that there were other rooms available, but her dad was firm in his decision. Feeling lost, she turned to her Aunt Lisa for help. Aunt Lisa welcomed her without hesitation and promised to confront her father about the situation.
The next day, Grandpa stepped in and had a heated discussion with Carla’s dad. Afterward, he offered her three choices: stay at home, live with him and Grandma, or find her own place with financial support from them. Though confused, Carla decided to stay with her grandparents for a while, but tensions at home continued to rise.
As things grew colder between her and her dad, Megan noticed the change and asked Carla why. Exhausted and confused, Carla couldn’t give her an answer. Eventually, she chose to move out, and Grandpa provided her with a cozy apartment and a $15,000 check to help her start fresh.
Grateful for her grandparents’ support, Carla embraced her new independence but missed her family, especially Megan and Jimmy. Her relationship with Dad and Linda diminished, and visits became rare. Seeking comfort, she turned to Aunt Lisa, who understood her feelings.
During a visit, Carla learned a shocking truth from her cousin: Grandpa had been holding Dad accountable for paying rent and returning the $15,000 gift to Carla. This revelation made her realize how much support Grandpa had provided over the years while trying to teach Dad responsibility.
Curious about the situation, Carla spoke with her grandparents and learned more about the family dynamics that led to her eviction. Wanting to clear the air, she agreed to a dinner with her dad to address their issues. Despite the tension, they both expressed their feelings and apologized.
Carla expressed her desire to mend their relationship without sacrificing her independence. With mixed emotions, she recognized her family’s struggles and vowed to find a balance. Supported by her grandparents, she felt hopeful for the future.
Determined to succeed in school and start her career, Carla aimed to make her grandparents proud. Blessed with their love and strength, she was ready to carve her own path toward a brighter future.
Actress Anne Heche Dead at 53 After High-Speed Car Crash
Anne Heche has died of a brain injury and severe burns after speeding and crashing her car into a home in the residential Mar Vista neighborhood last Friday, Aug 5. The building erupted in flames and Heche was dragged out of the vehicle and rushed to the Grossman Burn Center at West Hills Hospital in Los Angeles.
The 53-year-old, Emmy Award-winning actress is best known for her roles in 1990s films like Volcano, the Gus Van Sant remake of Psycho, Donnie Brasco and Six Days, Seven Nights.
Holly Baird, a spokesperson for Heche’s family, sent NPR a statement Friday afternoon saying: “While Anne is legally dead according to California law, her heart is still beating, and she has not been taken off life support.”
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Baird added an organ procurement company is working to see if the actress is a match for organ donation, and that determination could be made as early as Saturday or as late as next Tuesday.
Heche launched her career playing a pair of good and evil twins on the long-running daytime soap opera Another World, for which she earned a Daytime Emmy Award in 1991.
In the 2000s, Heche focused on making independent movies and TV series. She acted with Nicole Kidman and Cameron Bright in the drama Birth; with Jessica Lange and Christina Ricci in the film adaptation of Prozac Nation, Elizabeth Wurtzel’s bestselling book about depression; and in the comedy Cedar Rapids alongside John C. Reilly and Ed Helms. She also starred in the ABC drama series Men in Trees.
Heche made guest appearances on TV shows like Nip/Tuck and Ally McBeal and starred in a couple of Broadway productions, garnering a Tony Award nomination for her performance in the remount of the 1932 comedy Twentieth Century.
In 2020, Heche launched a weekly lifestyle podcast, Better Together, with friend and co-host Heather Duffy and appeared on Dancing with the Stars.
Heche became a lesbian icon as a result of her highly-visible relationship with comedian and TV host Ellen DeGeneres in the late 1990s.
Heche and DeGeneres were arguably the most famous openly gay couple in Hollywood at a time when being out was far less acceptable than it is today. Heche later claimed the romance took a toll on her career. “I was in a relationship with Ellen DeGeneres for three-and-a-half years and the stigma attached to that relationship was so bad that I was fired from my multimillion-dollar picture deal and I did not work in a studio picture for 10 years,” Heche said in an episode of Dancing with the Stars.
But the relationship paved the way for broader acceptance of single-sex partnerships.
“With so few role models and representations of lesbians in the late 1990s and early 2000s, Anne Heche’s relationship with Ellen DeGeneres contributed to her celebrity in a significant way and their relationship ultimately validated lesbian love for both straight and queer people,” said the Los Angeles-based New York Times columnist Trish Bendix.
Bendix said that while Heche was later in relationships with men — she married Coleman Laffoon in the early 2000s and they had a son together, and was more recently in a relationship with Canadian actor James Tupper with whom she also had a son — “her influence on lesbian and bisexual visibility can’t and shouldn’t be erased.”
In 2000, Fresh Air host Terry Gross interviewed Heche in advance of her directorial debut on the final episode of If These Walls Could Talk 2, a series of three HBO television films exploring the lives of lesbian couples starring DeGeneres and Sharon Stone. In the interview, Heche said she wished she had been more sensitive about other people’s coming out experiences when she and DeGeneres went public with their relationship.
“What I wish I would have known is more of the journey and the struggle of individuals in the gay community or couples in the gay community,” Heche said. “Because I would have couched my enthusiasm with an understanding that this isn’t everybody’s story.”
Heche was born in Aurora, Ohio in 1969, the youngest of five siblings. She was raised in a Christian fundamentalist household.
She had a challenging childhood. The family moved around a lot. She said she believed her father, Donald, was a closeted gay man; he died in 1983 of HIV.
“He just couldn’t seem to settle down into a normal job, which, of course, we found out later, and as I understand it now, was because he had another life,” Heche told Gross on Fresh Air. “He wanted to be with men.”
A few months after her father died, Heche’s brother Nathan was killed in a car crash at the age of 18.
In her 2001 Memoir Call Me Crazy, and in subsequent interviews, Heche said her father abused her sexually as a child, triggering mental health issues which the actress said she carried with her for decades as an adult.
In an interview with the actress for Larry King Live, host Larry King called Heche’s book, “one of the most honest, outspoken, extraordinary autobiographies ever written by anyone in show business.”
“I am left with a deep, wordless sadness,” wrote Heche’s son with Lafoon, Homer, in a statement shared with NPR via Baird. “Hopefully my mom is free from pain and beginning to explore what I like to imagine as her eternal freedom.”
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