Hello everyone, my name is Calvin, and I’m 29 years old. Today, I want to share an experience that might sound rather unusual but it certainly opened my eyes to some underlying issues in my relationship.
My girlfriend, Sarah, who is 27, invited me to her friend’s birthday dinner at a fancy downtown restaurant. I was looking forward to a pleasant evening, but it unexpectedly turned into a very uncomfortable and insightful event.
Sarah and I have experienced our fair share of ups and downs, particularly around the topic of finances and dating. Traditionally, I have taken on the responsibility of paying for most of our dates, which seemed appropriate and was mutually agreeable at the beginning of our relationship.
This arrangement even extended to times when Sarah invited friends along; I would happily cover everyone’s expenses. Although it started as a small gesture, it later became a significant point of contention.
The incident occurred last Friday when Sarah texted me about joining her for her friend’s birthday celebration at a posh restaurant. I agreed, dressed up, and joined the party, which was lively and enjoyable initially.
However, as the evening progressed, I noticed the orders were becoming extravagant. I whispered to myself about the impending high cost as our table filled with expensive wines and deluxe meals.
As the bill approached, I discreetly told Sarah that I would take care of our share, believing this to be a generous offer. Surprisingly, Sarah asked, “Aren’t you going to pay for everyone? It would be the gentlemanly thing to do.”
I was taken aback by her suggestion. The table was filled with more than ten women, most of whom I barely knew. Paying for everyone seemed unreasonable. I calmly suggested, “I think it’s only fair if I cover our portion.”
The atmosphere became tense. Sylvia, the birthday girl, noticing the awkwardness, graciously intervened. “It’s okay, Calvin,” she reassured me with a smile. “I’ll handle the rest.”
Despite Sylvia’s intervention, I paid for Sarah and myself, and Sylvia covered the remaining bill. The tension was palpable as we left, and the ride home was uncomfortably silent.
The silence eventually broke when Sarah exploded with anger over my decision. “You’re an embarrassment! You had to pay for everyone; you’re a MAN!” she exclaimed, clearly upset and disappointed.
Feeling a mix of anger and disbelief, I responded, “It’s unfair to expect me to pay for everyone at a dinner to which I was merely invited.”
Sarah’s anger didn’t subside. “It’s not just about the dinner! It’s about stepping up, being a man! Everyone expected you to take charge, and you embarrassed me in front of them all! I can’t be with someone so weak,” she argued vehemently.
I tried to reason with her, “Sarah, this is absurd. You can’t seriously end our relationship because I didn’t pay for everyone’s dinner. Where’s the fairness in this?”
Her response was chilling. “Maybe I need someone who knows what it means to be a real man, someone who wouldn’t hesitate. If you can’t do that, maybe we’re not right for each other.” She then turned away, closing off any chance for reconciliation.
A few days of silence followed. Then, Sarah called. I hoped for an apology, but instead, she offered an ultimatum. “If you’re serious about us, pay for the entire dinner. Then we might discuss our relationship.”
Stunned, I replied, “Sarah, you’re asking me to buy my way back into our relationship? That’s not just about the dinner. It’s about proving something by paying a bill.”
Her sharp reply made it clear, “It’s about showing you’re willing to step up. If you can’t, this conversation is pointless.”
I realized then that this wasn’t just about the bill. It was about control and manipulation. “Sarah, this isn’t right. You’re turning our relationship into a transaction. I can’t believe you’re pricing our relationship.”
The phone call ended on a cold note, “Then there’s nothing more to say.”
The realization that our relationship was more about control than partnership was profound. In a turn of events, I later coordinated with Sylvia, the birthday girl, on a plan to teach Sarah a lesson about expectations and respect.
Sylvia invited Sarah to a lavish housewarming party, which ended with a request for Sarah to settle the bill, much to her shock. As she grappled with the demand, I appeared, echoing her earlier expectations of me, “Odd to pay for an event you’re just invited to, isn’t it?”
I paid the bill, highlighting a point about fairness and respect. Sarah approached me afterward, apologizing for her behavior and asking if we could start over. However, the experiences and insights gained were too significant.
I declined her offer, emphasizing my need for a relationship grounded in equality and mutual respect, and walked away. This decision marked a pivotal moment, leaving behind not just a relationship but an old version of myself, now more aware of the values I seek in a partner and the essence of respect in any partnership.
Pregnant woman forms bond with pregnant stray cat, then they give birth at same time
When you’re expecting a baby, it’s always nice to have a friend who is also pregnant to share the experience — even if they’re not actually a human.
Two years ago, a pregnant woman took in a pregnant cat, and the two moms-to-be shared a bond — eventually giving birth at the same time!
Lauren Maners loves animals, and often volunteers to foster shelter animals in need of love. But when she was pregnant last year, she decided to take a break from caring for pets, instead focusing on her baby.
But fate had other plans. Months into her pregnancy, Lauren and her husband Kainan found a stray cat that they couldn’t turn away.
They found the stray, a white female cat they named Dove, on the side of the road, “extremely skinny and injured,” Lauren told Bored Panda.
Dove had reportedly been eating out of dumpsters. And the mom-to-be realized that the cat was also pregnant. Unable to find Dove’s owner or secure a place in a no-kill shelter, Lauren knew she couldn’t turn away a fellow expectant mother, and took her in.
“I couldn’t just leave her knowing that she was going to have to take care of her babies in the wild,” Lauren said.
“I knew that she was in bad shape and also felt a sort of connection to her due to us both being very pregnant,” she told The Dodo. “I managed to catch her by luring her up to me with our leftover food and wrapping her in my jacket, and we brought her to the vet.”
Lauren committed to fostering Dove and her future litter of kittens, and the former stray quickly made herself at home.
“She would follow me around everywhere I went, and loved sitting outside with me in the mornings in our fenced-in area and letting me rub her belly while we ate breakfast together,” Lauren said.
And in return for taking good care of the cat, Lauren got a sweet companion with whom she could share a real motherly connection. The two new friends were going through the same experience together, and Lauren joked on social media that they formed an exclusive “Pregnant Girls Club.”
“I and Dove had an instant bond,” she told Bored Panda. “It was like she also knew that I was pregnant and that I was a friend. She was not instantly trusting of my husband the way she was of me.”
Weeks went by, and soon both pregnant ladies were preparing to give birth — and it turned out their due dates were very close.
Finally, the day came, and Lauren gave birth to a beautiful baby girl named Kylie.
And after returning from the hospital, she discovered even more good news — and an amazing coincidence: Dove had also given birth!
While she’s not sure exactly what time Dove had her six kittens, she suspects the cat’s birth aligned pretty closely with her own: “They were very possibly born at the same time,” she told The Dodo.
Lauren continued to foster the cat family while caring for her newborn baby, and she continued to share a bond with Dove on their motherhood journey. She even says that baby Kylie started to bond with the kittens.
After months of fostering, it became time to find home for all the cats. Lauren helped all the kittens get adopted into good homes, and she told The Dodo that Dove was taken in by a friend of hers, so she can still keep in touch.
While caring for this pregnant cat during her pregnancy was an amazing experience, Lauren also emphasized that it isn’t something you should try to emulate: it’s important to spay and neuter your cats to help reduce the stray cat population.
What an adorable story. Thank you to Lauren for taking such good care of these cats and looking out for a fellow mom. It goes to show the real unexpected bonds that can form between humans and animals.
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