However, just because Halloween is near doesn’t mean we can’t show kindness. One Halloween fan shared this message in a TikTok video that has since gone viral.Salena Webb loves Halloween. She is a mother of four from South Carolina, and like many others, she celebrates by decorating her yard with Halloween items. Salena created a whole graveyard scene in her front yard, complete with ghosts, spiderwebs, pumpkins, a witch, tombstones, and skeletons carrying a casket. It took a lot of time to set up the display. But when her neighbor came to ask her to take it down, she agreed.
Salena removed the casket and gave the skeletons badminton rackets instead. She moved the more scary decorations to her backyard. “I was a little sad at first,” Salena wrote in her TikTok caption, “But I realized that taking away the casket wouldn’t hurt me, but it might help my neighbor feel better as he deals with this news. Kindness is free, and compassion goes a long way.”
Salena’s neighbor also appreciated her gesture. After she took down the casket, she brought him a card and some balloons. Even though there was a language barrier between them, she could tell he was thankful. He told her, “You’re good people.”
MY HUSBAND DYED HIS HAIR BLACK AT 78, AND I THINK IT LOOKS ABSURD. SHOULD I TELL HIM TO EMBRACE HIS AGE?
I pondered my options. Should I confront him directly, risking a potential argument? Or should I subtly hint at my disapproval, hoping he’d get the message? After much deliberation, I decided on a more tactful approach.
I started by complimenting him on other aspects of his appearance. “You look so handsome in that new sweater,” I said, trying to steer the conversation away from his hair. Then, I casually mentioned a news article about the trend of older men embracing their natural gray hair. I emphasized how attractive and distinguished it can make a man look.
He listened intently, a thoughtful expression on his face. I could see the wheels turning in his head. A few days later, he surprised me. He had stopped dyeing his hair! He looked refreshed, more natural, and surprisingly younger.
I realized that sometimes, a gentle nudge is all it takes. Instead of criticizing, I had simply presented a different perspective. And in the end, he made the right choice.
A few weeks later, we were out to dinner with some old friends. As we were waiting for our table, a young woman approached us. She complimented my husband on his “silver fox” look and asked him what hair dye he used. He chuckled and admitted that he hadn’t dyed his hair in weeks. The woman was surprised and impressed.
“You should keep it this way,” she said. “It’s so much more attractive.”
My husband beamed with pride. I couldn’t help but smile. It seemed that everyone else could see what I had been trying to tell him all along.
The incident taught me a valuable lesson: sometimes, the best approach is not to criticize, but to guide and suggest. By gently nudging him in the right direction, I helped him make a decision that not only improved his appearance but also boosted his self-confidence.
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