Mark Bryan is a robotics engineer who has been married for 11 years and has a daughter. He identifies as straight and chooses to dress unconventionally. Bryan is an American living in Germany, and he doesn’t believe that fashion has to be gendered. You can find Bryan wearing a skirt and heels to work or out anywhere else he goes on any given day.
Bryan said he doesn’t like how limited men’s choices are in the fashion department, especially when it comes to office attire. Men’s pants only come in a few colors, mostly black, gray, dark blue and the occasional pinstripe, and cuts.
The stylish dresser believes that if women are allowed to wear pants, men should be able to wear skirts and dresses as well. Bryan likes how skirts come in many styles and patterns – and many more colors – unlike men’s clothing.
Bryan prefers to mix traditional gender looks by wearing masculine attire on his top half, like a blazer and tie, and traditionally feminine attire on the bottom half. He will typically wear a pencil skirt and four-inch heels on the bottom.
Wearing high heels is no problem for Bryan. He first learned how to do it when his college girlfriend asked him to wear high heels while dancing with her so that they were on the same level. They continued this for over a year.
Bryan doesn’t let stereotypes or assumptions stop him from dressing in a way that brings him joy. He challenges expectations and does so unapologetically. Keep reading to hear what Bryan has to say about his fashion choices.
Bryan has a very clear idea about how he likes to dress. He told Bored Panda: “To me, clothes have no gender. I prefer skirts to dresses. Dresses don’t allow me to mix the genders. I prefer a ‘masculine’ look above the waist and a non-gendered look below the waist. It’s all about clothes having no gender.”
He continued: “I am old enough to remember that in school, the girls could not wear pants. Pants have now become a non-gendered article of clothing. So why can’t skirts and heels be non-gendered? Besides, men wore heels before women did. Maybe not today’s stiletto-style heels, but men did wear heels before women.”
Bryan is correct about that. High heels can look back on a long history. Although historians and archaeologists cannot date their invention clearly, they have been around at least since the 10th century. And they were not a fashion statement at first. No, the first recorded use of high heels was eminently practical: the Persian cavalry wore boots with heels, called a kalash or galesh, that made it easier for them to keep their feet inside their stirrups. This is, by the way, the same reason why cowboy boots have a small heel as well!
Since owning a horse was a sign of wealth, only well-off men could afford to wear these high-heeled boots. The use of them slowly spread across Europe, and high heels heels became one of the fashion signs of rich noblemen or traders. In fact, following the Great Schism of the Christian Church in the 11th century, even the pope wore high heels.
It wasn’t until several hundred years later that fashion slowly changed. During the 18th century, cultural concerns in Europe came up about the distinction between males and females and talk about what men and women should wear arose. This is the point in time where the belief that fashion is something effeminate and frivolous that “real men” shouldn’t care about hails from. Due to these changing beliefs, men largely abandoned high heels heels, as they were seen as impractical and mere accessories.
Bryan is one of the examples of how high-heels are slowly coming back as an accepted form of footwear for men. Although the engineer champions the option of wearing high-heeled shoes for men, he understands many people will look twice when they see him. He compares his style choices to someone who chooses to dye their hair bright colors. He explained:
“Take a person with bright green hair. Green hair is not normal. You look up and see this person, your mind tells you it’s a person with green hair, you think to yourself, that’s odd or interesting, then you go back to do what you were doing and don’t give it another thought. I believe this is the same when people see me in a skirt and heels.”
Bryan doesn’t have to struggle to find skirts and heels that fit him either. He wears a size 8 in skirts, and with smaller feet for a man, his shoe size in heels is 8.5. If you know a man who is considering trying out wearing heels and skirts too, Bryan suggests starting with a lower heel until you feel more comfortable walking in high heels.
What do you think of Mark Bryan’s style choices? Do you know any men who would try walking in high heels? Let us know, and be sure to send this along to your friends and family.
This $30 Cake Destroyed My Marriage – My Husband Broke Down in the Middle of His Birthday Party
At Tom’s lively birthday celebration, a seemingly innocent cake delivery unexpectedly turned the atmosphere from festive to frosty. When the cake was unveiled, revealing a shocking secret, the room fell into stunned silence as Tom’s betrayal was laid bare for friends and family to see.
I was rushing around the house, making sure everything looked perfect for Tom’s birthday party. Balloons floated in corners, and streamers hung from the ceiling, adding pops of color everywhere.
The living room buzzed with laughter and chatter as early guests started to arrive, bringing with them the warm, comforting smell of home-cooked dishes and the sound of cheerful greetings.
In the midst of setting up the snack table, the doorbell rang. I wiped my hands on my apron and hurried to answer it. A delivery man stood there, holding a large box with a cheerful “Happy Birthday!” sticker plastered on the side.
“For you,” he said, handing me the box that was surprisingly heavy.
“Oh, I didn’t order this,” I murmured, more to myself than to him, as I signed for the package. I assumed it was a surprise from one of Tom’s friends or his family. Busy as I was, I thanked him quickly and placed the cake box on the kitchen counter to deal with later.
As the party filled up, Tom was the center of attention, laughing and clapping his friends on the back. He always had this easy charm that made everyone feel welcome. His parents, Jane and Michael, brought in a homemade pie, smiling broadly.
They hugged me, praising the decorations and the cozy atmosphere. My best friend Lisa was right behind them, her arms laden with gifts and her kids in tow, adding to the joyful chaos.
In the kitchen, I finally had a moment to slide the mysterious cake into the fridge. Curiosity got the better of me, and I lifted the lid just enough to sneak a peek. There was a picture on the cake, but it wasn’t the happy birthday message I expected. It looked like a screenshot of a text conversation, but I couldn’t make out the details.
“Need any help in here?” Lisa’s voice snapped me back to reality.
I quickly closed the cake box, plastering a smile on my face. “Just trying to make room for everything,” I replied, pushing the box into the fridge.
As we walked back to the living room, I shook off the uneasy feeling. It was probably just a quirky joke from Tom’s work friends, I thought. They always tried to outdo each other with humorous gifts.
The party buzzed with energy, everyone enjoying the food and music. Tom’s laughter mingled with the happy chatter of our friends and family. I moved through the crowd, refilling drinks and sharing laughs, my mind occasionally drifting back to the odd cake in the fridge.
I decided to wait until we were ready to cut it. After all, it was just a cake, and it wouldn’t spoil the night I had spent weeks planning. But deep down, I couldn’t shake the nagging thought that something was off.
The room was lively, filled with the warmth of close friends and family, all gathered to celebrate Tom’s birthday. As the clock ticked closer to cake time, I felt a surge of energy.
I excused myself, heading back to the kitchen to retrieve the cake. My hands were steady but my heart wasn’t. The earlier unease had settled in my stomach, a constant reminder that something might be amiss.
As I rolled the cake out on the cart, the guests gathered around, their voices rising in a chorus of “Happy Birthday.” Tom’s face lit up with a broad smile, his eyes twinkling in the glow of the candles. Everyone cheered, clapping him on the back, waiting for the grand reveal of the cake.
I took a deep breath and lifted the lid off the cake box. The room fell silent in an instant. All eyes were glued to the cake, not because of its design or size, but because of the image plastered across it—a screenshot of a text conversation between Tom and someone named Jenna. The messages were clear, unmistakably intimate, words no wife should ever have to read about her husband.
Whispers cut through the silence. “What is that?” “Is this some kind of joke?”
Tom’s face drained of color. He looked from the cake to me, his mouth opening but no words coming out.
I found my voice, though it trembled. “Tom, what is this?” I asked loudly, the room echoing my question in their hushed murmurs.
“It’s not what it looks like, Ella,” Tom stammered, his eyes darting around the room as if looking for an escape.
“Not what it looks like?” I repeated, my voice rising. “It looks like you’ve been cheating on me, Tom. With Jenna? Who is Jenna?”
The room was heavy with shock, Tom’s friends and family looking from him to me, unsure of where to stand or what to say. His mother covered her mouth with her hand, tears in her eyes.
“Ella, I can explain,” Tom said, reaching out to me. I stepped back, refusing his touch.
“Explain? In front of everyone? You owe me that much, don’t you?” I demanded, my hands shaking but my voice firm. The cake, once a symbol of celebration, now sat between us—a stark, sweet betrayal.
Tom looked around, the weight of the eyes on him too much to bear. “I’m sorry,” he whispered, but the words were hollow, lost in the larger echo of his deceit.
The party was over. The silence said it all. No more laughter, no more chatter. Just a room full of people stunned by the truth laid bare on a $30 cake.
Tom attempted to speak, to salvage some shred of dignity, but his explanations faltered against the undeniable truth displayed for all to see. “It was a mistake,” he kept saying, but the words sounded empty, meaningless.
One by one, the guests made their excuses and left, leaving behind a wake of cold, uneaten cake and broken promises. Finally, Tom was left alone in the center of the chaos he had caused, isolated even in his attempts to explain.
With the last guest gone, the silence of the house was deafening. I sat in the quiet, the remnants of the party around me, and thought about everything Tom and I had built together. Love, trust, years of memories—all tainted now. The pain of the betrayal was sharp and deep, but even in the midst of it, a resolve was forming within me.
I knew what I needed to do. Respect and trust were the foundations of any marriage, and once they were gone, what was left to build on? I couldn’t live in the shadow of Tom’s choices. It was not just about what I had learned today; it was about self-respect, about not settling for someone who could so easily deceive me.
I decided to end our marriage. It was not a decision made out of anger, but out of a profound need to reclaim my life and my self-worth. As I stood up, the empty house seemed to echo back my resolve, its emptiness a mirror of what remained of our relationship.
Stepping outside, I looked back at the home that had harbored so many dreams and secrets. Tomorrow, I would start anew, building a life marked not by what I had lost, but by what I had chosen to gain: my freedom and dignity. The night was quiet, and in its silence, I found my first moment of peace.
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