According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
At the age of 4, she garnered the title “the most beautiful girl in the world”: Here’s how she looks at 20 years old
In a world where every child possesses a unique kind of beauty, there are some whose allure is so enchanting that they effortlessly claim the spotlight as the most beautiful children in the world. Thylane, a young girl whose mere presence stole the hearts of many, serves as a prime example of such captivating charm.
Right from her earliest days, Thylane’s distinctive grey eyes and curly locks cast a spell on all who beheld her. Even in her toddler years, her arresting features caught the attention of modeling scouts eager to work with her.
While countless individuals spend years navigating the complex terrain of the modeling world, striving to secure coveted roles in fashion shows, Thylane’s path unfolded with remarkable ease, her innate beauty acting as a key to unlock doors of opportunity.
By the tender age of 10, Thylane had already claimed the title of the world’s most beautiful child. She stood out among her peers as one of the rare few to grace the illustrious pages of Vogue and adorn the covers of esteemed magazines.
Yet, amidst the acclaim and adoration, Thylane’s family found themselves under scrutiny for introducing her to the world of modeling at such a young age. Many critics argued that instead of being thrust into the spotlight of photoshoots and fashion events, Thylane should have been free to revel in the joys of childhood, spending time with friends and frolicking outdoors like any other 10-year-old.
However, unmoved by the naysayers, Thylane’s parents stood firm in their convictions, steadfastly defending their choices in raising their daughter.
As Thylane’s star continued to rise, she ventured into the realm of acting, spurred on by the interest of numerous producers eager to collaborate with her.
After a brief foray into the world of cinema, Thylane found herself drawn back to her roots in the fashion and beauty industry once more.
Now a blossomed young woman, recent photographs depict Thylane alongside her beau amidst the picturesque landscapes of the south of France. The images captured during their romantic getaway reveal a deep and abiding affection between them, a testament to the love they share.
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